How to write personal principles if you have ADHD
Most advice on writing personal principles assumes a brain that can hold five to eight of them in working memory and pull the right one up on cue. That assumption is exactly where it stops applying to you. The fix is not a weaker version of the same list — it is writing fewer principles, tying each one to a decision you were already going to hit instead of a new thing to remember, and building the exception in from the start so one bad week does not read as proof the whole thing failed.
Why the standard advice backfires
A list of eight principles you are supposed to consult "throughout the day" relies on recall under variable attention — you have to remember the list exists, remember which one applies, and do this at a moment you did not schedule. That is three separate memory demands stacked on top of the actual decision. For a brain where working memory is the least reliable resource on any given day, the list is not a support structure. It is one more thing to forget, and forgetting it feels like a personal failure rather than what it actually is: a system built for attention it correctly predicted you would not always have.
The second failure is subtler. All-or-nothing thinking and a sharp reaction to a broken commitment are both common with ADHD, so a principle written in absolute language — "I always," "I never" — sets up the exact moment it will collapse. One exception, and the whole rule can feel retroactively fake, which is a worse outcome than never having written it.
Write fewer, and write them as if/then
Two or three principles beat eight, not as a consolation prize but because two or three is a number you can actually hold without the list itself becoming a task. Each one should read as a specific trigger and a specific response, not a broad identity statement. "I am someone who values honesty" asks you to translate a feeling into an action in the moment, which is exactly the step that variable attention makes unreliable. "Before I say yes to something, I name out loud what I am giving up to do it" names the exact decision and the exact moment it applies, so there is nothing to translate when the moment arrives.
Anchor that trigger to a decision you already make, not a new time slot. "Before I answer a message that annoyed me" is a moment your day already contains. "Every morning at eight" is a new appointment competing with everything else that wants that slot, and it is the one most likely to lose. A principle that only fires when a real decision is already in front of you does not depend on remembering to check in with it — the decision itself is the reminder.
Build the exception into the sentence, not into your willpower
Write the honest exception in advance, in the principle itself, rather than discovering it mid-violation and treating it as a failure. "I do not check work messages after 8pm, unless something is actually time-sensitive" is a rule you can keep on a chaotic day, because the chaotic day was already accounted for when you wrote it. Without that clause, the same night produces a binary outcome — kept it or broke it — and a broken absolute is exactly the kind of all-or-nothing data point that makes people quit the whole system rather than adjust one sentence.
Keep the behavior standard to one thing, and make it an action, not a feeling
Underneath the principle, attach one behavior standard — two at most. "Did I do the specific thing, yes or no" is a question you can answer from memory even on a scattered day. A longer checklist handed to you at the exact moment you are already making a decision just adds load to the part of you that has the least spare capacity right now. The standard should describe something a stranger could have watched you do, not a state of mind: "I sent the reply within the hour" is checkable; "I felt calm about it" is not, and a standard you cannot check is a standard you cannot use as evidence either way.
Review weekly, not daily
A nightly ritual is one more scheduled event competing for a slot, and missing it repeatedly just adds another thing to feel behind on. A short, honest look back once a week — which principle did I keep, which did I not, what was actually going on that day — treats the week's unevenness as information about your circumstances rather than a counter that reset to zero. Tuesday going badly does not erase Monday, and picking it back up on Thursday costs nothing extra.
Anything genuinely mechanical — medication, a specific appointment — belongs to an ordinary time-based reminder, not a principle. That is a scheduling problem, and a rule about how you decide has nothing useful to add to it. Save principles for the moments that actually require a judgment call.
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